Perfectionism is Conformity in Disguise
Jul 17, 2019
"Perfection is impossible. Just strive to do your best." - Angela Watson
When you aim for perfection in life, it's because there's already been a standard of perfection that you're trying to measure up to. Which means that pre-existing standard was set by somebody (or a group of somebodies) prior to your attempts to achieve that perfection.
Therefore, as you strive for perfection, you're actually conforming to someone else's idea of what "perfect" is. You're not living of your own volition, or intuition or self-actualization - you're simply trying to measure up to a standard that someone else created.
We've all heard that "done is better than perfect", which is another way of saying that the relentless pursuit of perfection can often prevent us from finishing anything. In the tech world and Silicon Valley, there's another take on this idea, "Fuck it. Ship it." Which can be interpreted as saying a product that's released to the public (even if it's still in BETA) is better than nothing being released at all.
In essence, the pursuit of perfection can be a self-limiting belief system that holds you back from ever actually finishing, releasing or sharing anything of value. Which is kind of ironic, because the perfection you're chasing is the very thing that holds you back from realizing your true value and intrinsic worth in the world.
"The pursuit of perfection often impedes improvement." - George Will
You've probably heard this before, but perfect is the enemy of progress. By shifting your value system and focus to constant and neverending evolution, you can allow the natural growth and expansion of wisdom, skills and knowledge to blossom in their own time. Instead of trying to be perfect all the time, how about just allowing yourself the space to improve, even if it's gradual?
And you know what, there ain't no shame in doing your best and walking away. Even if it's not perfect. Even if people criticize you. Even if the critics tear you down. Even if people don't understand. Knowing in your heart that you did your best is a reward in and of itself.
"Perfection to me is, I walk away from a situation and say, 'I did everything I could do right there. There was nothing more that I could do.' I was a hundred percent, like the meter was at the top. There was nothing else I could have done. You know? Like, I worked as hard as I possibly could have. That's perfection." - Drake
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